TIME DOES NOT HEAL ANYTHING!

 “Give it time—time heals everything”. This is a common saying among people from all works of life, said in a bid to show concern for people going through tough situations. 

 

At one time or another, we all have made use of this word. People may be going through heartbreaks, emotional trauma, the loss of a love one, or several other mentionable (or unmentionable) tragedies, and we are quick to say to them—in addition to other inspiring words we have to offer in the hope that it'd help them—that they should, “give it time, for time heals everything”.

 

Stop for a minute to ponder and ask yourself—"how does time heal? Does time really heal?"

 

The Cambridge dictionary defines time as “the part of existence that is measured in minutes, days, years, etc., or this process considered as a whole.”

 

Ask yourself again, "does time heal?" From the aforementioned definition, does time have the capacity to heal a broken heart? Restore emotional balance? Bring back to life the loved one you lost? Heal a broken marriage?

 

A sincere answer would be "no.". Time lacks the capacity to heal or change anything. Healing or change is beyond the reach of time. It is one reason we can find people who mourn the passing of a loved one like they just died the day before, even when it's been years since they actually did. 

 

If time lacks the capacity to heal, then what exactly does time offer? 

 

Time offers itself as a tool the individual in need of healing can make use of, to forget about the current situation. He or she sets out to forget about the ordeal.

 

So, how does this individual do this?

 

By looking for other events to overshadow the current circumstances. 

 

If it is heartbreak from a lover, they seek another lover. If it is pain, they seek either a higher pain or a pleasant emotional sensation strong enough to suppress it. When it’s the loss of a loved one, they try to focus their attention on anything other than the loss. 

 

All these they do, in the hope that time really would heal. And most times, with a new lover, eased-off pain or the effect of the loss gone, they become bold enough to say, “time does heals everything”.

 

Sadly, the litmus test to show that they truthfully have not been healed is this—anything that looks like their previous ordeal unearths the same feeling and reactions as at the first time.

 

They are always careful—as though walking on eggshells—not to repeat the same mistake. This shows that the injury is still fresh. Beneath the beautifully made-up exterior and the white-washed sepulcher lies dead decaying matter.

 

If time cannot, then what or who can?

 

“...And now I will show you a superior way to live that is beyond comparison!”

—‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭12:31‬ ‭TPT‬‬

 

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